I dated a young man shortly before I met my husband. I was quick to see that our relationship with each other didn’t align with the vision I held for my future partnership. I envisioned a bond characterized by friendship, companionship, unity, and shared desires—a vision that this previous relationship lacked. Despite familial pressures urging me toward marriage, I couldn’t envision a future with this individual. Our communication as friends was lacking; how could it flourish in a romantic context? While he expressed intentions of marriage, he never formally proposed. He even mentioned his family’s intention to meet mine without taking the step of proposing to me directly.
There was a particular incident that made me reflect on a principle taught by Jesus—the principle of treasure. He said, “For where your treasure is, your heart will be also.” This principle resonated deeply with me, highlighting that our actions and priorities reflect what we value most. Applying this to my relationship, I realized that the connection I sought was absent…..
The Adequate Preparation,” underscores the paramount importance of making wise choices when selecting a life partner. It advocates for a thorough examination of potential partners’ mindsets, characters, words, and actions. The journey begins with seeking guidance from the Creator, embracing wisdom and understanding, engaging in prayer, and actively nurturing the marital relationship. Both partners are encouraged to invest in each other, fostering intentional growth for sustained marital bliss. The book concludes that adequate preparation and informed decision-making, guided by insightful wisdom, are essential for embarking on a successful marital journey. Marriage is indeed beautiful and sweet, but the question remains: will you make it so?
Feyikemi is a life transformation teacher, writer, and certified behavioral analyst. With a passion for impacting lives, she is the author of a few inspirational non-fiction books, drawing inspiration from biblical principles and weaving them into thought-provoking Christian non-fiction.
As a strong advocate for inner peace and contentment, Feyikemi believes in embracing life’s seasons whether joyful, challenging, or extremely difficult. She encourages her readers to embrace each season, see God in it, and learn from it.
Feyikemi’s expertise lies in empowering individuals from diverse backgrounds to face Life’s challenges with knowledge, skills, and confidence. She is a member of the John Maxwell Leadership Team, specializing in assisting individuals in fulfilling their divine callings. Her focus areas include couples, teenagers, youths, and individuals navigating new beginnings, offering coaching, mentoring, leadership, and counseling programs.
She holds a bachelor’s degree in international relations from Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, Nigeria, and a master’s degree in human resources management from the University of the West of England, Bristol, United Kingdom.
Residing in Switzerland with her family, Feyikemi brings a wealth of experience and insight to her work, dedicated to serving others.
The inspiration for “The Adequate Preparation” stemmed from my personal experiences and observations. Witnessing a childhood friend’s struggles in her marriage led me to delve deeper into the complexities of marital relationships and the importance of choosing the right life partner.
Studying biblical teachings, particularly Apostle Paul’s writings in 1 Corinthians chapter 7, I came to understand the significance of peace in relationships. I realized that while divorce is not ideal, God does not condemn those who need to make difficult decisions to find peace and fulfillment.
Seeking guidance from my spiritual mentor, the Late Pastor Michael Olawore of New Wine Church London, the Church I attended while I was living in the UK, I received validation and encouragement to share my insights with others. Inspired by Pastor Michael’s wisdom, I embarked on writing “Am I Ready, a spiritual guide to choosing a life partner, Am I Ready, a spiritual guide to the marital journey, and now The Adequate Preparation. I believe, all of these books, if we read and apply the principles they teach, singles will do well in choosing and consequently enjoy marital bliss.
Through the books I have written, I hope to equip singles with the knowledge and principles necessary to make wise decisions in selecting life partners, ultimately leading to lasting marital bliss.
